Showing posts with label wife. Show all posts
Showing posts with label wife. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Husband hides in the next room while wife is being beaten and raped.

This is a really heart-wrenching real life incident reported in chinahush.com of a coward husband who let his wife bite the bullet.

In a small rented apartment in Bao’an District, Shenzhen, 29-year-old Wang Juan lies on the bed staring at the ceiling, she looks pale and trembling. Suddenly she sits up, puts her hands in the air and wave frantically and starts crying.  For the past half month, she couldn’t eat or drink regularly and attempted suicide several times. She has gone delirious after what happened on Oct 23rd night. She couldn’t decide which man did more harm to her – the joint-defense personnel (similar to neighborhood patrol) who beat and raped her for an hour, or her husband who hid in the next room trembling the whole time and too scared to even call the cops.

Yang Wu, 31 years old, runs a home appliance repair shop in Xixiang Street, Bao’an District in Shenzhen. His repair shop only makes about 1000 yuan per month, barely covers the family’s table. What’s worse, the shop is constantly harassed but Yang Wu always turns the other cheek just to get by with his second wife Wang Juan.

The seemingly peaceful life as they prefer was disrupted on Oct 23rd night when a drunk joint-defense team personnel Yang Xili along with two other strong hunks came into their shop smashing everything with steel pipe and baton and yelling “I will make you suffer to dead”. In Yang Wu’s eye, Yang Xili was really “flippant, unstoppable and often beat people up and smash cars”, instead of performing his duty of protecting the neighborhood and assisting police work.
When Yang Xili rushed in, Yang Wu just got out of the shower and his wife Wang Juan was doing house work. Yang Wu immediately fled into the storage room to escape being beaten up, whereas her wife came up to stop the smashing. Yang Xili grabbed her hair and pushed her towards the table. The more Wang Juan resisted, the more violent Yang Xili bashed her and shouted: “I am a joint-defense team personnel, brother of the police, it is useless to call the cops.”

Yang Xili also used the steel pipe to threaten Yang Wu’s 76-year-old mother and his 13-year-old daughter, driving them far away from off the house. Yang Wu as man of the house witnessed the whole thing while holding his breathe in the corner. He thought Yang Xili got tired and left just like before. He was wrong.

A few minutes later, Yang Xili returned and ordered the other two strong men to watch for him at the door. Then it came Wang Juan’s screaming for help. Yang Xili swore and forced to fumble all over Wang Juan’s body. Wang Juan resisted only to get another round of walloping. After 20 minutes of beating, Yang Xili started tearing Wang Juan’s clothes, and dragged her into the bed room. Yang Wu heard his wife getting abused and raped.

In this less than 50 sqm apartment, the room where the violence took place and the storage room was so close that the hiding spot of Yang Wu was less than 2 m from the bed. Yang Wu could hear clearly what’s happening. In fact, he could see the living room and the bed room clearly if he could just raise his head. However, Yang Wu only hid there in tears, biting his lips for fear of making sound.

An hour later, he finally plucked up his courage and dialed 110. He was so weak and shivering that he only whispered into the phone “my wife was raped”, which was mistaken with “robbed” by the operator due the low voice. After a few round of calling 110, Yang Wu finally managed to report the situation and told the police the crime scene. A few minutes later, Yang Wu came out of the storage room seeing the police arriving. Yang Xili has finished rape but was still beating his wife in nakedness. Lots of blood on the floor. Yang Xili picked up his pants and tried to escape while Yang Wu was looking for clothes to cover his wife. Yang Wu grappled with him until the police came in.

Wang Juan in a mass of bruises and blood all over her face, murmured: “I don’t have face to live on, rather just die.” She cried and scolded at the sight of his husband: “You are not a man.” Yang Wu’s mother also cried and hit his son while crying “useless husband, useless son. My son is too weak, he failed my daughter-in-law”. She kneeled on the floor, begging for Wang Juan’s forgiveness.

Yang Wu wept: “I wanted to rush in there with a knife and slay that monster. But I have 4 children to raise and a 76 years old mother to support. If I go to jail, who’s gonna take care of them? I can’t afford a broken family.” He said his 160 cm figure was not Yang Xili’s opponent, plus they carried weapon and two sidekicks. He also worried that if he called the cops, he would be bullied even harder later.

Yang Xili was arrested by the police. But the nightmare is not over. In the following half month, Yang Wu was constantly harassed by Yang Xili’s family in order to make him drop the lawsuit. In a phone recording, Yang Xili’s brother threatened “Your whole family may die out” “I can’t promise your children’s safety after my brother gets out from the jail in a few years. His wife has already run away, he has nothing to lose, you think about it”.

Yang Xili’s mother even took her grandson along to come to Yang Wu’s door and scolded them “The woman’s shameless, she seduced my son and then accused him for rape?” “You are raped but still make a fuss of it, don’t you have sense of shame?” Yang Wu’s mother kneeled to stop her making false accusation and begged for justice.

Fear for revenge, Yang Wu actually went to the police department to request cancellation of the lawsuit, but was rejected and reprimanded by the police.

Wang Juan only stayed for a short while in the hospital since the family couldn’t afford her complete treatment. She fell into very unstable mental status, refused to drink or eat. Yang Wu and his mother took turn to keep an eye on her as Wang Juan already attempted suicide several times.

The bloodstain was still there under the bed. Bandage wrapped around her left wrist, the same hand she wore her wedding ring. Her 13-year-old daughter cried along with her mother. The youngest kid was only 3 years old, doesn’t quite understand what’s happening yet.

People are confused about Yang Wu’s action. One bystander said, the police department was only a few steps away. Yang Wu could have run out of the house and shout for help, police and neighbors would come to his rescue in seconds. But he didn’t.

Joint-defense team claimed that Yang Xili was only a personnel of the force, but only for temporary employment. He was unemployed days before the crime.

Friday, July 29, 2011

Vampire man drinks wife's blood


Deepa Ahirwar, a 22-year old woman, who lives in the Damoh district of Madhya Pradesh, was married to Mahesh Ahirwar, an agricultural laborer in 2007 in a Shikarpura village. He started drinking her blood a few months later, claiming it made him strong. Her husband would use a syringe to draw blood from her arms, then empty it in a glass and drink it. For three years he did this on a regular basis, threatening her of dire consequences if she revealed this to anyone.
Deepa’s husband even did it while she was pregnant, though she didn’t start protesting until after she gave birth to her son. Her health started deteriorating for she started to feel nausea after repeated blood removal.  Any attempt to resist will result her being violently attack by her husband.
Deepa quietly ran to her parents’ house along with her infant to complain about her husband.

Her father then took her to the Patera police station to lodge a complaint. But the police refused to register a case saying it was not under their jurisdiction.

So they moved to Hindoriya police station (the area where her husband lived).

But even Hindoriya refused to register a case against Mahesh, who was by then absconding. However, when the local residents of Shikarpura learnt of Mahesh’s gross habit, they decided to take up the cause.

Due to their efforts, an FIR has been lodged at the Hindoriya police station stating that Deepa was physically tormented by her husband.


If my spouse tries to drink my blood, I've to show him this:





Now, do you have the guts to drink, Mr. Mosquito?

Monday, June 6, 2011

Are wives SEX OBJECTS?

Recently The Obedient Wives Club (OWC) had a seminar on sex lessons to help wives to serve their husbands better than first-class prostitues. I admit that their intention is right to promote harmonious marriages and curb social ills but I find that the approach is wrong. According to OWC, wives should obey, serve and entertain their husbands and wives that are abused are most likely their fault for not listening to their husband. I seriously find this statement ridiculous. Wives are not sex objects to their husbands and wives has their own rights.
In marriages, it takes two to tango. Yes, the wife should submit to their husbands out of love and the husband should love the wife wholeheartedly. It is never one-sided where the husband is always at the receiving end. The husband should play a role in the marriage to make it work by loving his wife and not seek extra marital affairs outside. If he is a responsible man and deeply rooted in his religion, he will have the conscience that looking for sex outside marriage is sin. In an event a husband forces himself on the wife, it is rape and he has no respect for his wife. Sex is beautiful and made by God for procreation and a way for married couples to express their love. But definitely not for lust or any form to demonstrate his power.
OWC should help married couples in a different approach by providing counselling such as a better communication between husband and wife and living a harmonious marriage in an Islamic way. As i’ve stressed earlier, a harmonious marriage is whereby both husband and wife are deeply rooted in their religion and it takes both hands to clap.

Source of picture: Google

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

63 Petua Bahagia oleh Datuk Dr Fadzilah Kamsah

Lihat gambar kucing kucing yang aku ambil dari Misz Google ni.. Apa yang korang boleh tafsirkan dari melihat wajah wajah comel ini? BAHAGIA.....Iye.. itulah yang paling tepat dapat aku katakan.... Sedangkan kucing pun menikmati kebahagiaan.. apatah lagi kita ni yang mempunyai akal fikiran yang Allah SWT berikan agar kita dapat berfikir dan menilai mana yang baik dan yang buruk...




Sesungguhnya tanpa sebuah persefahamn mahupun pengertian antara sepsang kekasih ataupun suami isteri, memang susah untuk kita melayari sesebuah rumah tangga mahupun percintaan dan sukarlah untuk kita mengecapi kebahagiaan yang menjadi idaman setiap pasangan bercinta.

Di dalam melayari bahtera perkahwinan, sememangnya banyak dugaan yang harus kita tempuh , namun jika kita sabar, tabah mengahadapinya pasti kebahagiaan itu milik bersama..

Di sini, ingin aku kongsikan 63 petua oleh Pakar Motivasi kita Datuk Dr Fadzilah Kamsah yang aku rasa dapat memabntu semua pasangan yang sudah berkahwin mahupun yang baru ingin mendirikan rumah tangga.. Insyallah..


1. Doa yang berterusan.

2. Patuh ajaran agama.

3. Murah dengan pujian.

4. Murah dengan khidmat.

5. Murah dengan belaian kasih sayang.

6. Murah dengan sentuhan.

7. Mencari kebaikan pasangan.

8. Cari masa berkomunikasi, berbual atau bergurau senda.

9. Cari kebaikan dan pembaikan diri daripada setiap pertengkaran.

10. Menghormati had, sempadan atau hal peribadi pasangan.

11. Menilai diri daripada perspektif pasangan.

12. Berfikiran terbuka - boleh tegur menegur.

13. Berani mengambil risiko emosi - tegur/perubahan/berpisah sementara.

14. Menilai dan memberi keutamaan dalam kehidupan.

15. Tolak-ansur.

16. Menghormati dan mengambil kira ‘gerak batin’ (intuition) perempuan.

17. Tidak mengejar kebendaan semata-mata.

18. Sedar bahawa perselisihan kadangkala tidak boleh dielakkan.

19. Mengubah diri untuk merangsang perubahan pada pasangan.

20. Sanggup berkorban buat pasangan.

21. Menghormati pasangan.

22. Berasa amat beruntung (dan nyatakan) mendapat pasangan yang ada.

23. Perhubungan seksual yang sihat dan diredai.

24. Menghormati perbezaan dalam diri pasangan.

25. Sentiasa bermaafan sebelum tidur.

26. Sentiasa bersangka baik terhadap masa depan.

27. Meletakkan hak kepada pasangan.

28. Tidak menjadi hamba kepada pasangan.

29. Berubah secara kecil-kecilan untuk meningkatkan kebahagiaan.

30. Mengawal marah. Buat perjanjian.

31. Mencari penyelesaian dalam situasi ‘menang-menang’.

32. Muhasabah hubungan untuk mencari punca masalah.

33. Menghormati sifat semula jadi pasangan.

34. Memahami peranan ‘pasangan’.

35. Hubungan perasaan sesama pasangan.

36. Jangan simpan ketidakpuasan, sedih, marah atau benci dalam hati.

37. Bentuk kod kasih sayang dan anda berdua saja yang tahu.

38. Sengaja merancang untuk membaiki hubungan suami isteri.

39. Tujuh kali puji dan satu teguran.

40. Sebut ‘I love you’ sepanjang masa.

41. Banyakkan bergurau dan bermesra.

42. Sentiasa berterus terang.

43. Beri masa untuk perubahan berlaku - sabar.

44. Elakkan berdebat untuk mencari kebenaran.

45. Elakkan salah pasangan.

46. Cari titik pertemuan.

47. Selesaikan masalah hari ini pada hari ini juga.

48. Lebih banyak memberi daripada menerima.

49. Minta nasihat, pandangan atau maklum balas daripada pasangan.

50. Sentiasa bersemangat - bangun tidur, pergi kerja, balik kerja dan sebagainya.

51. Seimbangkan hubungan dari segi:

(a) Mental, pendidikan dan ilmu

(b) Emosi

(c) Fizikal dan ekonomi

(d) Sosial

(e) Spiritual

52. Jangan berjauhan terlalu lama (kecuali terpaksa).

53. Tidak terlalu mengongkong.

54. Tidak bertindak bersendirian.

55. Memberi peluang untuk berbeza:

(a) Pendapat atau pandangan

(b) Hobi

(c) Kegemaran

(d) Makanan

(e) Cita rasa

(f) Warna pilihan dan pelbagai

56. Humor atau lawak dari semasa ke semasa.

57. Minta bantuan untuk memecahkan kitaran negatif.

58. Berwawasan dan pandang ke depan (tidak terjebak dengan masalah semasa).

59. Tidak meminta yang bukan-bukan.

60. Bentuk undang-undang atau peraturan dalam rumah tangga.

61. Mencari kelainan dan perubahan positif.

62. Elakkan mendera pasangan dengan apa cara sekalipun.

63. Reda, syukur dan tawakal kepada Allah s.w.t.